If you need to reach me, email me at Please do not contact me if your email will sound anything like these below:

    • “Vu, would you consider sitting on this awesome task force? It’s only 3 hours a week for 9 years and it pays your organization absolutely nothing and your opinions will most likely be ignored anyway.”
    • “Vu, we are doing this awesome project to help make the world better, but we are having trouble reaching communities of color, and I hear that you and your staff are great with that, so could you conduct a focus group with 20 of your clients or so for free? Also, can you print out and pass these flyers around at your programs?”
    • “Vu, we got a big grant to do something awesome to make the world better and we want to collaborate with your organization. Would you have time to meet? Sure, we didn’t budget any funding for partner organizations, but since we think it aligns with your mission, would you collaborate with us anyway?”
    • “Vu, could you or your organization help with translating something into Vietnamese, or just checking if your translation is accurate? It’s due in two days, and we didn’t put any funding in the budget for translations.”
    • “Dad, I can’t believe I’ve found you! I am your son! 18 years ago, when you were a carefree teenager in Memphis…”

Basically, if you’re trying to contact me to ask me or my staff to do something for free, the answer will likely be no. We have our own programs and stuff to do, and so we have to turn down all sorts of important projects that make the world better. It is not personal, but seriously, we don’t have time trying to do our own work and tackle everyone else’s work too. If your email might sound something like any of these below, though, please hit me up (after reading “How to schedule a meeting without being punched in the pancreas“):

    • “Vu, I love your blog. It’s changed my life. I will never look at capacity building the same way again. You are a unicorn, sir. And sexy to boot.”
    • “Vu, I am a foundation/donor who loves your blog and wants to give your org money so that you can keep writing.”
    • “Vu, we have this grant that we think your organization and its work around educational equity would be a great match for.”
    • “Vu, there’s a 7-day conference in Paris on cultural competency/educational equity/social justice, and Seattle is sending a delegation. Would you consider being a part of this delegation? A grant is covering all expenses.”
    • “Vu, I am confused by the all the characters on the Game of Thrones and I need someone to spend a few hours over drinks explaining to me who everyone is and how they relate to everyone else. I will buy the drinks.”
    • “Vu, we lurvvv your columns! Would you consider being a keynote speaker at our event or conference? We have a budget for this.” (Please contact my agent at
    • “Vu, I am a producer in LA, and we thought your idea of having a show about nonprofits is brilliant! I want to talk to you about making it happen.”
    • “Vu, I would like to buy you lunch.”
    • “Dude, there’s 2-for-1 specials on happy hour drinks RIGHT NOW, yay-yuh, wanna come?!!”

Guest posts: Vu does not accept guest blog posts

  • Christine Soto

    You are incredibly funny and insightful. I do not want you to do anything for free nor do I have a grant to give you. That’s it, buddy.

    • Vu

      Thanks, Christine. You are so sweet to comment. I’d take this nice comment over a grant any day.

  • Jason

    Hi, can you explain your website’s name please? What do testicles have to do with fundraising, especially given that most fundraisers are women? It sounds very sexist and I think you should consider changing it.


    • Vu

      Jason, that’s explained in the About page.

    • Jason, that’s explained the About page.

      • Jason

        Thanks, but that’s not an explanation. It doesn’t work to deny the socially agreed meanings of words, and evidently you’re perfectly aware that one of the two main meanings of the word ‘balls’ is ‘testicles’. You’ve also used the phrase on a picture of a man standing in his underwear, with no juggling balls pictured, which you refer to in your ‘about’ page. If the sexist connotation of your site’s name isn’t intended, then I think you should change it.

        • This is a nonprofit humor blog, and the header image refers to one of my favorite shows, Breaking Bad. It’s a personal website, and anyone who is offended by its contents is not obligated to read it. But, I hope you’ll stick around and give it a chance before you judge it.

          • Jason

            Thanks for replying, but again, you haven’t really addressed my point. A sexist comment or title doesn’t stop being sexist because it’s on a humor blog, or because it’s associated with a non-profit, or because it’s said in private – if I say something sexist to my friend in private that obviously doesn’t affect whether the comment is sexist or not. And of course I agree that I’m not obligated to read your site. I’m not really complaining that you’ve offended me – I’m telling you your site has sexist content and you should change it.

          • Vu

            Thanks for the feedback.

          • It’s not JUST a man in his underroos…it’s a nod to the popular television show, Breaking Bad, and I’m a woman and I love this blog. Thanks Vu, I’m a new subscriber and so excited for future posts.

          • I think it’s funny, and this comment just shows the lack of humor in the sector, which Vu is trying to alleviate.

          • Traci, this comment is 4 months too late, but thank you for defending Nonprofit With Balls!

          • John Carter

            Sounds like all of Jason’s humorless and self-important diatribes could be added to the top section once he gets done juggling your balls.

          • LOL, thanks for the support, John, and for a great laugh. There’s enough seriousness in our work that we really can’t take ourselves this seriously.

  • This. Is. Amazing. Wow. I am going to put something similar on my site. I love it and respect your candor – it’s refreshing and SO needed! Thanks.

    • Julia, sorry for the late response to your comment. Thank you for the great encouragement, and for all the shoutouts on Twitter. I really appreciate it.

  • Scott Smith

    Great stuff, Vu. I love your contact page. I think everyone should (humorously) explain their terms.

    • Thanks so much, Scott. Sorry for this late response. Unfortunately, my social media skills need a lot of work.

      • Scott Smith

        No worries. Better than lacking in your in-person social skills. I’m enjoying your site. Nice work.


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  • Nicole

    I just signed up for your weekly messages so my Mondays suck less. Your “5 lessons for nonprofits from the Seahawks’ bizarre Super Bowl loss”, showed up on my Facebook feed because a Rabbi friend posted it. I find your take refreshing and informative. I hope to use something – if not just fun trivia facts to impress others.

  • Lynda Swanson

    Vu ~ A sign! I have no idea why you have a Sport Coach that ate a Travco as a logo on your page but that go my attention as I have had both of similar vintage. I suspect that you may be a fellow vintage RV enthusiast. So we are friends then right? Sooooo, I am starting this non profit………. actually I am, soon, when I find fellow members. Meanwhile it’s me talking on a Facebook page to myself mostly. If you would like to read what it’s about, I welcome your comments. Just make sure that you’re funny. CommunityCocoons on facebook.

  • Christopher Rogers


    I just wanted to thank you for writing something so refreshing. I am a lowly AmeriCorps peon building infrastructure here in California and often find myself laughing out loud and learning from some of your insights. I have finally found some work that I am passionate about, and it is so great to see people who are realistic about the intricacies of infrastructure building. Keep on, keepin’ on!

  • I was just introduced to this website. I feel as if my life is a little more complete. Thank you, you sexy unicorn!

  • Jenny Henry

    Love your blog… it’s so funny!! And whaaaat, you’re a vegan too!? Awesome!

  • Christine Soto

    Well, I haven’t looked at the blog for a while and I was so so so so sad to NOT see that great illustration of you in your underwear and now there’s this silly creature. (A cat-like thingy) Are you going for cute? How very disconcerting. (Sent with love & respect)

  • Lawrence Pitre

    Vu, I would like to set up a meeting with you. I am currently a grad student and was referred to you by friends within our communities.

  • Simone Joye

    How did it take me so long to find you! I was gonna request you serve on our board of directors of the National Association of Nonprofit Professionals (, but then I readdddddddddddddd…lol…Anyway, I’m a new fan! Keep on doing your thing. I’m sharing everywhere and featuring your dating article in our very first newsletter. I’m trying my best to build and represent our sector on a national scale. Time for us to get the respect we deserve, afterall, we make up 11 million workers in the USA and work in the third largest industry in America. Who cares, right? Well I do. So if you’re up to being a national hero one day..look us/me up…it does come with a complimentary membership ;-).

  • Julie Edwards

    To add to ED etiquette rules… “An ED shall not attend another ED’s fundraiser with the sole purpose of ruthlessly and shamelessly poaching their big ticket donors.” We have an ED locally who does this move all the time and we want to shut her down. Any ideas?

  • Lucas Diaz

    Saludos, Vu. Just learned of this site today, man, and it’s so damn on point I’m going to make sure my fellow nonprofit director pals here in New Orleans check out what your offer, especially my friend Minh who’s been running VAYLA since 2006. Thanks for putting this out there. Love the good info and the fun, frank, yet serious tone.

  • Edward Lane

    I am all for this kind of effort. I had considered writing posts about “referencing” (as opposed to “citing,” “mentioning,” etc.) and another of my peeves, “based out of” (as if the person in question was a battleship) instead of “from.” I would urge, however, that you make a distinction between grammar (“the study of the classes of words, their inflections, and their functions and relations in the sentence”) and diction (the choice of words).

  • Taylor

    Hi Vu, Thanks for all your work and help. I’m in a new position to make big changes and impact for a startup nonprofit. Your ideas support the direction we are moving – and being a startup gives us a good chance to move in that direction from the get go. I’m in the middle of building staffing roles. Any suggestions on where to find resources on creating positions that reflect the inter-connectedness of jobs over the siloed reporting charts. I’m sick of the same work organization charts that put staff in silos — when that’s not how we work in a small non profits. Also, want shorter jobs descriptions — is there any support out there for more of a summary of role? or is that a ticking bomb. As you can tell, my HR background is limited at best — mostly on the ground and in the field experience. Thanks.

  • Erica

    Thanks for being in Austin with us this week. Your presentation was awesome!!!! And if you send me your slide show I can seriously fix that first slide in like five seconds!!!

  • Melina Watts

    I did not realize that we have a Great Unicorn who cares about the non-profit sector and feel so much better now that I know…

    Wonderful post today. Thank you.

  • Michelle Douglas

    Vu, I am a big fan of your column and the day I was quoted in one of them was one of the 7 wonders/ highlights of my life. I am interested in the topic of background checks. I see so many ED’s on the Happy Hour that are running them on all staff and volunteers and I am interested in your thoughts about how with the targeting of marginalized populations for incarceration, especially the African American population, if we are not perpetuating the loss of opportunity that is already so prevalent in our society. I see where it is needed sometimes but others I am not so sure. What do you think?